Where do we find a surrogate please?

by Kelly Donaldson
(Ontario, Canada)

After 3 IUI and 2 IVF’s the doctor says it is surrogacy time now. We have been married for 10 years and we have always wanted children. Sadly, it has not happened. We have so much love to give.
Where do we find a gestational surrogate please?

Reply from Rayven:
Kelly,

It will all work out in the end, and you will find you surrogate.

Before you get started looking though, make sure you have done all the research about surrogacy that you need to do. If you haven’t had a chance yet, make sure to look over the following sections:


Matching


Compensation


Legal and Insurance

Now, onto finding your match!

There are several ways to do this. First, put the word out among family and friends if you are comfortable with this, asking if they know of anyone. You’d be surprised how often this works! Often, someone knows someone who knows someone looking to become a surrogate, and since this is such an interesting topic of conversation, word gets around.

Second, explore different surrogacy attorneys. For example, my attorney, often refers his clients to various surrogates in Florida and Georgia that he works with. If you have an attorney, check with him to see if he knows of any surrogates. If you don’t have an attorney yet, but know where you would want the baby to be born, find a surrogacy attorney in that area and check with them.

A third option is posting an ad or answering an ad on our free online message board:


Information on Surrogacy Classified Ads

And finally, if you would like to easily find a match and saving money is not your motivating force, you can go through a surrogacy agency.

I will caution you to make sure that you have exhausted all your research into the process BEFORE you begin matching. You want to know what is going on and how things work so that you do not inadvertently get taken advantage of, or feel as though you were taken advantage of (by a lawyer, clinic, agency or surrogate) at a later time.

Good luck with your journey! Best wishes!

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  1. I send out my best wishes to you, you are much braver than I. I have seen so many horror stories about surrogacy I’d be terrified! I hope you find what you’re looking for and it all works out in the end.

  2. I wish you all the best in this endeaver.My daughter is also one of those people who wanted children and could not have any so I know the heartbreak that goes with it.She is considering the alternative option of adopting.However your information is very informative about surrogacy.Thanks.

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