How does a surrogate get pregnant?


by wondering…

I’m kinda nervous about asking this. I mean no disrespect. But how exactly does a surrogate get pregnant? Does she, um, well, “do it” with the dad? And everybody’s OK with this???

I probably shouldn’t ask. But there’s so much about surrogates these days and I just don’t know! I’m not a perv or anything, just really curious.

Sorry again.

Reply by Rayven

LOL. Honestly, I wondered how long it would take for someone to ask this question. My husband claims that people ask him all the time if I have been unfaithful in order to become a surrogate mother and help another family.

No, no “hanky panky” occurs with surrogacy. That’s not called surrogacy, that’s called swinging!

There are two forms of surrogacy: traditional and gestational.

In traditional surrogacy, a surrogate is impregnated with sperm from the intended father through artificial insemination. This is the old “turkey baster” method that you are probably familiar with. The surrogate is the biological mother of the child and will sign over her parental rights to the intended parents.

The second form of surrogacy, gestational surrogacy, requires a medical procedure. Eggs are retrieved from the intended mother and then fertilized with sperm from the intended father in a lab. The resulting embryos are then transfered into the surrogate mother.

The only person who needs to be present for either method of conception is the surrogate! The parents do not have to be there; they can be in a different room, state, or country!

Best wishes!

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