What in your opinion are some of the cons of surrogacy?

Surrogacy-Quote-30by shannon
(haines )

I am a student at Akron Institute and i and a few fellow students are doing a class project and our topic was surrogacy. And i was wondering if you could tell me what the cons were of the surrogacy process would be.

Reply by Rayven

Hi Shannon,

Yes, there are cons to surrogacy. Here are a few of the biggest.

1. Costs
Surrogacy is extremely expensive, and out of reach for many infertile couples. The ones who do choose surrogacy often are regular, middle class Americans (or their counterparts from other countries) who sacrifice greatly in order to become parents.

2. Poor Matching
Many surrogate mothers and intended parents are so eager to get started that they rush the matching process instead of taking their time and finding the best people to go through this fantastic journey with. Often, what happens is that there are severe personality conflicts that can destroy a fragile relationship, and make the entire process quite miserable.

Also, sometimes due to rushing the matching process, one party (either the surrogate or the intended parents) ends up being less than ethical, and leaves the other party with great financial burdens.

3. No Guarantees
Surrogacy is an emotional whirlwind for everyone involved. And it is an extremely expensive process. But the kicker is that at the end of the day, there are no guarantees. There are no promises that a happy, healthy baby will be born. Transfers fail. Miscarriages and premature births happen. The reality is that a couple can use up all their savings and still be left without a baby.

One interesting thing I think I should mention: it is a myth that surrogate mothers try to keep babies they give birth to. While this happens in extremely rare cases (much the same way you hear every once in a while about a baby being stolen from a hospital) it is truly not a cause for concern in the surrogacy community.

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