How do I go about this?

Surrogacy-Quote-38I live in north Wales, UK. I am 26 and have a very loving family an supportive husband. I would prefer to be able to get to know people who are seeking a surrogate mother as I believe that a good relationship is beneficial. How can I find potential matches? I have wanted to be a surrogate for a long time now. Where are parents who are seeking a surrogate mother?

Reply by Rayven

The best place to start for finding the right intended parents to work with in surrogacy is the surrogacy matching page on this website:

Finding a Surrogacy Match

There you will find ways to locate intended parents. Keep in mind, this site is intended for surrogate journeys taking place in the United States.

Best wishes!

Update

Please see our six step guide to getting started:

Simple Surrogacy Getting Started Guide

Taking OTC medication while cycling for a surrogacy journey

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by Trina
(Seattle, WA)
The Lupron injection is giving me really bad headache’s, what type of medication is ok to take when you going through a cycle? What type of medication is not ok to take.


Reply by Rayven

Headaches are common with Lupron. The short answer to your question is any medication is OK to take with surrogacy cycle medications…..as long as your IVF clinic approves it.

Call your nurse coordinator. She will tell you what you are allowed to take that will not affect your surrogacy transfer medications.

Best wishes.

Should Surrogate Mother’s be Recognized on Mother’s Day?

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Mother’s Day is a nationally recognized and globally celebrated holiday which focuses on celebrating mothers and motherhood. It also celebrates maternal bonds and the significant impact that mothers have in our world. This year the holiday falls on May 12th in the U.S. so it is quickly approaching. A lot of people debate whether or not pregnant women who have not yet physically had children should be included in the celebrations. Some would say that they should be because you become a mother as soon as you become pregnant. Others would disagree, saying that you are not a mother until your child arrives.

I recently saw this very question being debated on Facebook and it made me wonder “how is Mother’s Day addressed in surrogacy situations?” When a surrogate mother is pregnant, her friends and family are sure to know that the child she is carrying is not her own and that the child will be going to live with the intended family as soon as it is born. So are they expected to extend the same holiday greetings to her? When it comes to the intended parents, what is the general consensus about their celebration of the holiday. Do people feel the need to wish the intended mother a Happy Mother’s Day since she is expecting? Do the intended parents acknowledge the day by sending a gift to the woman that is carrying their child?


Then I wondered about how most surrogate mothers feel about the holiday after they have already given birth and the child is with their intended families. Although it would certainly be nice to hear from my intended families on that day, since I am indeed a mother to my own children I realize that the children that I carried for them are not mine, so I don’t expect to anything on Mother’s Day. However, is this the general consensus. Do other surrogate mother’s feel the same way or are there those who actually wish to hear from their intended families on Mother’s Day?

Being a surrogate mother is definitely an act of sacrifice , just as a traditional pregnancy is. Physically and emotionally you experience much of the same things. So should there be some formal recognition of the surrogate mother’s actions on a continued basis? Or is it best to avoid establishing the surrogate mother as playing the mother role in any way? What do you think? If you are or have been a surrogate mother, do you expect to hear from your intended family on Mother’s Day?

how can I become a surrogate mother?

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by claire
(u.k)
I already have 2 children of my own and feel my family is complete. I don’t know what I would have done if I couldn’t have children, it is heart breaking, therefore I have been thinking for some time that I would like to become a surrogate? I live in the U.K. Do I join an agency or advertised on a web site.. if so which one? (as strange as it may sound).
I would really like to help someone.
yours sincerely


Reply by Rayven

Hi Claire,

This site, Information on Surrogacy, primarily deals with surrogate pregnancies in the United States. The laws in the UK are much different than they are over here.

Having said that, the best place to go for getting more information on finding a match is here:

Finding a Surrogacy Match

This page should point you in the right direction on where to find your intended parents.

Best wishes!

Also, please see our six step guide to getting started:

Simple Surrogacy Getting Started Guide

How much it cost for someone to carry my eggs

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by Stephanie
(Miami, Florida)
I can’t carry my own babies because I don’t have Uterus, I would like to know how it works. How it cost for a person to carry my baby and how much it will cost me with everything included, Dr. visits to check the pregnancy and Hospital bills, etc. I have my 2 ovaries and service and the only thing I’m missing is my uterus. This surrogate more then adoption? Please I need all the advice I can get.


Reply by Rayven

Hi Stephanie,

Let me try and answer all your questions here. What you are looking for is a gestational surrogate to carry your biological children.

How much does surrogacy cost?
Gestational surrogacy does not have one set price tag, and depends on several factors. How close (distance wise) will you be to your surrogate? A few miles away, or thousands of miles away? Is your surrogate mother a family member who will do it for free, or are you paying compensation to your surrogate? Are you using an agency? Does your surrogate have medical insurance? What are your clinic’s fees?

A good rough estimation of how much it costs to use a surrogate mother would be $50,000-100,000 or more. This would be for everything, not just the compensation of your surrogate.

For more information on the fees intended parents pay:

Fees Intended Parents Pay

Do some pay less? Yes. Some do. And some pay more and don’t end up with a baby. Surrogacy is expensive and risky.

Does surrogacy cost more or less than adoption?
Again, there is no set answer to this. I’ve heard stories of intended parents paying thousands in attorney fees and other expenses only to have the birth mother change her mind at birth. And they’ve had this happen to them more than one time. They might have been better suited, financially, to have started with surrogacy instead.

But then again, there are adopted parents who do not face this happening in their journeys, and have no trouble whatsoever adopting their children. For these parents, adoption is much less expensive than surrogacy.

Generally speaking, if everything goes right, adoption costs less than surrogacy.

Best wishes!