Sister wants sister to be surrogate with dead sons sperm

Surrogacy-Quote-46by Denise

My sister in law’s son died of leukemia at 23 years old. His sperm has been banked for two years. It is coming up for renewal or discard and my sister in law has asked her sister to be surrogate for her son who is deceased. My nephew’s aunt would be the surrogate. What are the complications regarding blood line and down syndrome and legal expectations.

Reply by Rayven

Your sister-in-law’s sister would be unable to be a traditional surrogate mother for her nephew’s child, as she is a relative of her nephew. Meaning, she is unable to use her own eggs and her nephew’s sperm to create a baby.

She could, however, become a gestational surrogate mother, using the sperm from her nephew along with the eggs of an egg donor, and going through IVF to become pregnant. Any risks of Down Syndrome would be based on the eggs of the donor, not the fact that the aunt was related to the nephew.

There would be no bloodline issues, as the mother and father of the child are not related.

It is quite common for one family member to become a surrogate for another family member. But never does both the egg and sperm come from the same family.

Legally, they will need to obtain a lawyer that deals with surrogacy in Texas, if that is where the aunt lives and where the baby will be born. If she lives in another state, that is where the attorney must practice. Due to the unique circumstances of this particular case, the lawyer will need to walk your family through the specifics.

You are lucky to come from such a close family that is willing to do this for one another! Best wishes!


Do allergies affect surrogacy?

Surrogacy-Quote-45by wiraporn slemp
(Anaheim,CA )

Can I be a surrogate mother if my first child has allergies?

Reply by Rayven
This answer will depend on a few things. First, are you considering traditional surrogacy or gestational surrogacy?

If you are considering gestational surrogacy, where you get pregnant via In-Vitro Fertilization, and are not biologically related to the child, then the fact that your own child has allergies will not make any difference whatsoever.

It would be more important if YOU had allergies, specifically allergic reactions to medications, latex, or severe allergies like bee stings or peanuts that could cause anaphylactic shock while pregnant.

If you are going to be a traditional surrogate, where you would get pregnant via artificial insemination and would, in fact, be the biological mother of the child, then it really depends on what type of allergies we are talking about here.

Are we talking about common hay fever? Allergies to cats? These would probably not be that big of a deal.

But if you are talking about severe allergies that can cause life-threatening anaphylactic shock such as peanuts or bee-stings, then this information would have to be carefully considered before choosing you as a traditional surrogate mother.

Best wishes!


How do I ask my friend to be my surrogate?

Surrogacy-Quote-44i want to have a 4th baby but had a partial hysteroctomy 6 years ago how do i go about askin my best friend to carry my baby? and how much does it cost to use my eggs and my boyfriends sperms?

I have 3 kids 13. 11 and 7 but 6 years ago had to have an emergency surgery and had to remove my uterus…worst day of my life…i always wanted more i have found the man that is my everything and we really want to have a baby together….been doin alot of research but still a lil in the dark..i have kinda ask my best friend and she says yes but i wonder if she thinks im jokin…

Reply by Rayven
The hardest part about asking someone to be your surrogate mother is bringing it up in the first place. If you have already broached this subject to your friend, then the hardest part is already over!

Just do the same thing again. Talk to her about it. Tell her you are serious. Bring it up frequently in conversation. Start to make plans. She’ll quickly understand that you really are interested in becoming a parent through surrogacy.

And let her know that yes, you were serious when you asked her, but that you understand that she might have thought you weren’t serious. When she does understand you are serious, she can reexamine her answer.

As far as how much it costs, there are too many variables in your personal situation to give you any sort of estimate. I have no idea if you are planning a traditional or gestational surrogacy, if your friend will be compensated, if your clinic is local, or even if surrogacy is legal in your state. Surrogacy can range from $20K to over $100K, depending on so many factors.

Even though this is your friend, on thing I need to stress to you is that you BOTH will need attorneys and you will be financially responsible for paying for both attorneys.

Best wishes!


Do I qualify to be my friend’s surrogate?

Surrogacy-Quote-41by hcr

I had gestational diabetes with my first pregnancy but not my 2nd. Do I qualify?

I had gestational diabetes with my first pregnancy but not my 2nd. 🙂 I also had gestational hypertension the last couple weeks of my pregnancy. I had a c section my first time and then the second time it was an automatic repeat c section. I had two health babies and fast recoveries ,etc. Can I be a surrogate for my best friend? We are not applying through an agency. We just have to do the paperwork through the fertility clinic.

Reply by Rayven
Your hypertension along with your gestational diabetes would most likely disqualify you from becoming a surrogate mother through any agency.

But, since you will be not be working with an agency, but will be helping your friend directly, then your acceptance will be based on two factors:

First, has your personal OB/GYN cleared you for a third pregnancy, and an IVF pregnancy at that?

If so, then it will really be up to your friend’s IVF clinic itself. They will go through your medical history to determine if you meet their requirements.

Either way, for you to even be considering helping your friend like this, you are a very special person.

Best wishes!


How old do I need to be to become a surrogate mother?

Surrogacy-Quote-42by Tamera Weathers
(Fayetteville, North Carolina)


How long should I wait and how old do I have to be, to be a surrogate mother?

I am currently 5 months pregnant, with my first child and after I have my son, I want to apply to be a surrogate mother. My question is: how long should I wait after I have my son?

Also, I am 19 years old, and I will be 20 soon and I am wondering how old do I have to be, to be a surrogate mother and why?

Reply by Rayven

Congratulations on the upcoming birth of your child! And what a kindhearted person you are for considering becoming a surrogate mother.

First, you must have clearance from your OBGYN after your delivery to qualify to become a surrogate mother. What does that mean? Your doctor must say that he/she feels you are medically capable of another pregnancy.

Often, this is a personal preference from doctors. I had one doctor who thought 6 weeks was sufficient (after delivering TWINS!) to begin trying for another pregnancy, and another doctor who thought a minimum of 6 months after a normal, no complications pregnancy was a better idea. (Both doctors worked in the same practice.)

But more importantly than that, it is really important that you are DONE having your own children before you begin surrogacy. Anything can happen during a pregnancy, and though rare, it does happen that a surrogate mother loses her ability to ever have another child while helping a couple become parents. More than one former surrogate mother has become an intended mother to complete her own family.

Additionally, you must be 21 in the United States to legally enter into the binding contract to become a surrogate, so you still have at least a year. (You’ll need that anyway if you plan to breastfeed; your periods need to be back to normal before you become a surrogate mother.)

Hope this helps! Actually, having just over a year to research, prepare, and possibly even match (assuming you are only planning one child of your own) is ideal, as you are not rushing anything, and are doing it right.

Best wishes!