What is a fair price to ask for a traditional surrogacy?

Surrogacy-Quote-46by Kim G.

What is a fair price to ask for a traditional surrogacy? And should I use their lawyer or use my own?

Reply by Rayven

Hi Kim,

The fees a traditional surrogate mother should ask are going to vary from situation to situation. Most first time traditional surrogates will get between $15-22,000 for a base fee plus additional fees.

If you do not have a specific amount in mind, you may even want to wait to see how your potential intended parents feel about compensation.

You will want your own attorney. Your intended parents will pay for his fees.

Does a surrogate mother have any rights?

Surrogacy-Quote-45by Christina Starling
(Los Angeles, CA)

I was just wondering for my English 21 research paper if a surrogate mother has any rights? 

Reply by Rayven


Your question is very vague so I will answer it the best way that I can.

Does a surrogate mother have any rights? Yes.

She has the total and complete right to make all decisions regarding her own body. She can authorize or refuse any test against the intended parent’s wishes. She can choose to abort a fetus or choose not to abort a fetus irregardless of what her intended parents wish. Her rights to her body are hers alone.

Having said that, she may be in violation of a civil contract, if her contract states otherwise, but at the end of the day, a surrogate mother makes these decisions.

She also has the right not to allow her intended parents to attend appointments or even the birth itself.

I feel, however, that you are asking if the surrogate mother has any rights to the baby she gives birth to. The answer to that is, it depends.

In some countries where surrogacy is legal, a traditional and a gestational mother both have legal rights to the child born.

In America, a gestational surrogate mother does not have the legal right to keep the child for any reason.

Depending on the state, some traditional surrogate mothers may have to sign their rights away, and could successfully petition for custody of the child after birth.

Best wishes!

Interested in being a gestational surrogate?

Surrogacy-Quote-30by Heidi Moore
(Niles, MI USA) 

Is there a company to work through that will be able to assist with any questions or concerns near Niles, Michigan? I am interested in finding out more information on the fees and stuff. Such as is the ob appointments, labor and delivery covered by the intended parents or my personal insurance? Would I get paid by the family to carry their child for them and if so how much do they pay?

Reply by Rayven


Many agencies will not work with surrogates in Michigan because compensation for surrogacy is illegal in Michigan. You can be a surrogate for a set of intended parents in Michigan, but you cannot get paid for it.

This can be avoided if you give birth out of state.

Your personal health insurance should cover you after you become pregnant, unless they specifically exclude surrogacy. This ideal set-up saves your intended parents thousands of dollars without costing you a penny.

Best wishes!

How can I have a baby?

Surrogacy-Quote-25by Vincent
(Lakeland, FL)

I want to have a baby and be able to raise him/her, but I need someone to carry my baby. How and where do I go about doing that?

Reply by Rayven

Hi Vincent,

It is becoming increasingly common for single men (regardless of their sexual preferences) to seek out a surrogate mother to start a family.

You’ll need to decide if you want a traditional surrogate, or if you’d like to find an egg donor and use a gestational surrogate.

After that, the process is like any other surrogacy, and you can get started by reading this site. Just click the links to the left, read the pages and all links they go to, and move down the list.

I will mention that you will be unable to use a surrogate in the state of Florida. Florida law states that a surrogate may only be used by a married couple. You’ll have to have the baby born in another state.

Best wishes to you!

How did you become a surrogate?

Surrogacy-Quote-28I am interested in becoming a surrogate but do not know how.

Reply by Rayven
How did I become involved in surrogacy? I literally stumbled upon it.

Several years ago, I saw a made-for-tv-movie about a traditional surrogate mother, and thought in the back of my mind “I could do that someday”. I’m not even sure if I was a mother at that time, it was so long ago. But, as time went by, I forgot about the movie.

Then, a few years ago, I ran across an article in my newspaper looking for egg donors. I wasn’t sure I would qualify to donate eggs because I had had my tubes tied (you can, but I didn’t know it at the time) so while online searching for the answer to this question, I stumbled on surrogacy, and remembered that movie.

I then began the tedious and year-long process of gathering information. I did not want to jump into this blindly, so I took my time (and that is saying alot-I am a very impatient person, quite impulsive, and often make instantaneous decisions on major life changes) and found out absolutely everything there was to know about surrogacy. Then I went through the matching process, which took six more months, before starting my first journey.

The nice thing about all that time I spent, is that I have created this website for you, which took all that research and broke it down into pertinent information that you need to get started.

How do you start? Simple. Read this site. You need all the info that is here.

Just start at the top navigation tab at the left, “About Surrogacy”. Click it, and then click on each link on the page, which will take you to more information about surrogacy. Done with “About Surrogacy”, click the next tab, “Gestational Surrogacy”, and so on, going through the entire site (there are about a hundred pages at this time) until you are done.

During this process, you will learn, specifically, what you need to do in order to become a surrogate mother.

Best wishes!